If you’re anything like us, you like to really do your research (we mean a lot of research) before you make a decision. Here are five books that tackle topics like fertility, motherhood, the biological clock, and the nitty gritty on the egg freezing process. Trust us, these are way better than obsessively Googling—add ‘em to your bookshelf or your Kindle and research away.* Happy reading!
When Rachel Lehmann-Haupt was 31, she thought she had her future all planned out—she had the guy, and she was ready to move on to marriage, babies, the whole shebang. Then her relationship ended, and she was forced to really examine her life, her wants, and her options. These options include egg freezing—which she did just a few years later—and what she calls “DIY motherhood,” also known as single motherhood by choice. In Her Own Sweet Time is an “inspiring, honest account of her own efforts to reconcile modern love and modern life with the latest medical research.”
More women are having children “later”; in fact, the mean maternal age is higher than ever before, with an increase of mothers over 30 bringing up the average. The reasons are many—relationships, education, career, better birth control—and the effects are both negative and positive. Elizabeth Gregory explores this complex world of by interviewing a diverse group of women embarking on “later motherhood,” documenting their attempts to conceive or adopt and the surprising advantages they find they have: stable careers, better financial resources, higher confidence, and more.
Journalist Sarah Elizabeth Richards is all over the egg freezing press (if there is such a thing). After she froze her eggs in 2013, she penned a personal essay for the Wall Street Journal called “Why I Froze My Eggs (And You Should, Too).” She was a major player in the 2014 Bloomberg Businessweek cover story about egg freezing and career freedom. You may have even seen her byline in The Times, talking about (what else?) her fertility. But her book, published in 2013, goes beyond her own experience to include the stories of four other women who made the decision to freeze their eggs—the who, what, why, where, and when of it.
Part personal memoir, part well-researched reference book, The Big Lie was inspired by the author Tanya Selvaratnam’s own struggle to get and stay pregnant in her late 30s. She felt undereducated about the realities of women’s fertility—and overwhelmed by promises that she still had time to “have it all.” Selvaratnam uses in-depth reporting and her own poignant story of love, loss, and illness to urge “more widespread education and open discussion about delayed motherhood,” with the hope that the information she provides will allow women to make smarter choices about their reproductive futures.
This practical how-to guide to egg freezing is a must-read resource for any woman considering fertility preservation. Written in clear, step-by-step language, this quick read guides women through the parts of egg freezing they may not have initially considered, like fertility testing, choosing a doctor, and dealing with insurance.
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*Please note: we’re not profiting in any way from endorsing these books! Go ahead, borrow ‘em from the library if you prefer.